people

reasons we refuse advice

it does not match a value we have

we need evidence of the benefits

fearing the result

will not admit we are wrong

authority figures can be threatening

may be in denial

just needing to vent

prefer to complain

con not commit to helping ourselves

we think we know better

bottom line, unhealthy attitudes affect judgment so it is best to avoid any confrontation entirely. 

anxiety is fear of future and creates impatience with the "less effective pace" of others

people pleasers judge themselves  harshly and feel they need to be perfect in order to be accepted or loved.